About Hillary
Dr. Hillary Schaefer offers a calm, straightforward approach for people worried about stress, anxiety, ADHD, depression, and related concerns. She writes plainly in sessions and focuses on practical steps clients can use right away.
Dr. Schaefer aims to build trust quickly so people feel heard and ready to try new strategies. She earned a doctorate from the University of Virginia in 2013 and has practiced for 12 years.
Her work has included clinic, hospital, and university settings as well as roles directing a clinic that served families and children.
Background and approach
Dr. Schaefer holds credentials as a New York psychologist and a Washington psychologist and practices from New York. In sessions she emphasizes collaboration and clear goals.
Clients can expect an honest conversation about what is and isn’t working, followed by specific tools they can use between meetings. She draws on several approaches to tailor the work to each person’s needs. Her listed concerns include parenting, self-esteem, coping with life changes, addictions, relationships, intimacy-related issues, eating and sleeping problems, anger, career concerns, bipolar disorder, compassion fatigue, and more.
She also notes focused experience with BDSM, kink, alternative sex culture, blended family issues, body image, cancer caregiving, codependency, and dissociation. Dr. Schaefer uses Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally-Focused Therapy, and Existential Therapy as tools in her work.
Sessions are offered in English and delivered through video calls, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging. To begin, people complete a short matching questionnaire and schedule according to available times.
How these approaches work online
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice difficult thoughts and feelings without getting stuck in them and then commit to actions that match their values. It can be useful for anxiety, stress, and making life changes. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on spotting unhelpful thinking patterns and testing new behaviors to reduce symptoms like low mood or anxiety. It often includes homework and practical exercises between sessions. Client-Centered Therapy prioritizes creating a nonjudgmental space where the person sets the pace and the therapist listens deeply to help the person find their own solutions.Choosing the right approach is part of the work together. The therapist will talk with the client about goals, preferences, and what has or hasn’t helped before. Together they will try methods and adjust the plan so it fits the client’s needs and day-to-day life.
Online therapy makes regular meetings easier to fit into busy schedules. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation and visual cues, phone sessions can be a good option when bandwidth is limited, and live chat or text-based messaging are useful for brief check-ins or flexible communication. These formats make it simpler to keep momentum between sessions and to use therapy without long commutes.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- Parenting issues
- Self esteem
Also listed
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Anger management
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Cancer
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Eating disorders
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Fertility issues
- Forgiveness
- Gender dysphoria
- Guilt and shame
- Hoarding
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Postpartum depression
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Relationship issues
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexuality
- Sleeping disorders
- Smoking / vaping cessation
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 12 years
- Licensed
- New York, Washington
- Languages
- English
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