About Ralph
Dr. Ralph Datema is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) practicing in Colorado. He brings 45 years of clinical experience and a calm, reflective style to sessions.
He often works with adults facing relationship struggles, mood concerns, ADHD, and life transitions. Dr. Datema focuses on how people relate to themselves and others.
He listens closely and helps clients sort through patterns that cause stress or conflict. Sessions aim to be practical and grounded, with attention to emotions, behavior, and everyday choices.
Background and approach
His background spans marriage and family therapy, pastoral psychotherapy, and long-term clinical practice. That breadth gives him experience with grief, trauma, addiction, LGBT concerns, multicultural issues, and personality-related challenges. He also supports people dealing with career stress, compassion fatigue, and changes tied to aging.
Therapy draws on client-centered work, psychodynamic ideas, mindfulness, and elements of the Gottman Method. Dr. Datema adapts conversations and plans to each person’s needs instead of following a fixed script.
He encourages reflection while offering concrete steps to try between sessions. People who choose him can expect steady, patient guidance and a focus on clear goals. He frames challenges as problems to be understood and worked through together.
If someone wants to change how they cope, relate, or feel day to day, he offers experience and practical support to help make that happen.
Therapeutic approaches for online care
Dr. Datema blends client-centered therapy and mindfulness practices with elements of the Gottman Method to shape online sessions. Client-centered therapy emphasizes the client’s experience and aims to make sessions feel respectful and nonjudgmental, helping people clarify what matters most to them. Mindfulness therapy teaches simple attention and breathing skills to reduce reactivity and manage stress, which can help with anxiety, sleep, and focus. The Gottman Method brings practical tools for improving communication and resolving recurring relationship conflicts.Choosing an approach is a collaborative process. He will talk with each person about their goals, needs, and preferences, and together they decide which methods to try. That shared planning makes it easier to adjust strategies over time if something isn’t working.
Online therapy offers practical flexibility. Video calls let the therapist and client see nonverbal cues and work through relationship or emotional material using visual feedback. Phone sessions can be a good fit when bandwidth is limited or when someone prefers not to be on camera. Live chat and text-based messaging support brief check-ins, coaching-style guidance, or follow-up between sessions. These options make it easier to fit therapy around work, caregiving, or travel without losing continuity of care.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
- Grief
Also listed
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Anger management
- Bipolar disorder
- Career difficulties
- Coaching
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Eating disorders
- Intimacy-related issues
- LGBT
- Multicultural concerns
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self esteem
- Sleeping disorders
- Stress, Anxiety
- Trauma and abuse
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 45 years
- Licensed
- Colorado
- Languages
- English
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